Tables for Moms
My wife and I had some friends over for dinner the other night and my friend ask me, "What's the scoop on Tables for Moms?" I thought about shooting back a canned response you might see in one of our videos, but instead answered candidly. I thought I would share that response with you.
I started this program (I hate that word but can't think of another) back in December of last year. It's a simple concept: we make custom tables for single-moms in Kansas City for free. We started doing one-a-week for the first month or so but when the requests picked up we moved to two-a-week and that's what we've been doing for the last several months.
To be frank, the only reason we do it is because I am a Christian. I think Jesus cares a lot for single-moms. I think he sympathizes and feels and wants to help. I also think He lives in me and when I'm Open, He lives through me. Tables for Moms started off as that.
But along the way and in the busyness of my work life it became a program. I made a slick form on our website that takes applications; I read those applications and then send moms an order form; they fill it out and I enter the details into our system; my guys make the table and then deliver the table to them. I never meet the moms. I don't see them or know them. My delivery guys meet them on their delivery route but their delivery route is so busy that they don't have time to make small talk. It's a program. Maybe even a charity.
Talking to my friend the other night helped me process all of that, and to be honest I don't like what its become. In the New Testament Paul is quoted saying to some of his friends in Corinth, "I opened wide my heart to you." I first read that back in college, and the idea of opening wide my heart always stuck with me.
I don't I want to be apart of a charity.
I want to open wide my heart.
I think, and maybe I'm off on this, but I think there is no value in giving if your heart isn't involved. Sure, some moms get a table they wouldn't have had, but does anyone really need a table? Probably not. I think our needs revolve around Jesus, and they are accessed through our hearts. I think the things we give and receive just help to Open us up.
So that's what I'm going to change about Tables for Moms. I decided for now on I am going to meet with the moms in person instead of taking their orders through a form. And I'm going to engage, and—as best I can—open wide my heart.